Well Don's right not every "diet" will work for everyone. It's a matter of finding what will work for you. I've tried dozens of them over the years and from everything I've tried the only thing that really seems to work is exercising.
I'm doing the atkins thing at the moment with Don and well, it's working wonders for him, it's not doing much for me. I have the metabolism of a slug so my body doesn't like to let go of it's stored fat. very frustrating!! The atkins thing seems to work best for men to be honest. I've read a number of articles that confirm that it works best for men. It does work for some women, but I ain't one of them.
I do have a suggestion for you at the moment while you are deciding what path you want to follow. For a week keep a journal of what you eat. Don't change your eating habits for that week just because you are writing it down. At the end of the week look back at what you ate. You should see when you tend to eat not so great choices, and you can figure out ways to change your habits. An easy way to change your eating habits is to try to cut back or cut out if you can in between meal snacking. At least change what you snack on... instead of snacking on chips or a chocolate bar, have some celery sticks or some carrots handy.
A big thing that helps is getting out and walking. After dinner instead of taking a seat in front of the TV, grab your wife and go out for a walk. It doesn't have to be a long walk, just getting into the habit of going out for a walk will help.
Anyway..... figuring out what will work best for you and fit into your lifestyle is very important. Because if it is too hard to follow chances are you wont stick to it and you wont see the results you want. The big thing to remember is you are not going on a "diet" short term, you are trying to change your habits so you don't end up coming back to the point you are at now in the future.
Geesh I think it's time for me to stop typing... I'm starting to sound like a health nut
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Hope some of what I wrote is helpful... good luck
-k